this past weekend there was a singles conference for LDS singles age 26 and over here in my own backyard. it was my first conference ever. the main motivation for my attendance was my really good BBW (bath & body works) friend T was in town from salt lake.
she and i met up on saturday morning to catch up and talk about our adult lives of home ownership, setting up 401k accounts, making sure we are the favored aunt and plan amazing vacations. it was so great to spend time with her. i miss her especially when she shares her insights and life experiences.
during a slight lull in the activities of the conference T ran into a friend and former home teacher from DC. during the course of the conversation with this dude he mentioned more than once that there is no one to date in new york so he looks forward to moving somewhere to finally find someone to date and hopefully marry. i wanted to punch him in the face.
let me clarify...i didn't have the immediate reaction to punch this guy because i had suddenly and completely fallen in love with him. no, my motivation for inflicting bodily harm upon his jaw line was because he obviously needs a swift reality check that physical pain could provide. saying there are no women to date in new york, whilst standing in front of eligible women who have numerous eligible women friends, was a load of (pardon my language) crap. what does this guy want in a wife?
i left the conference with a sour taste in my mouth because i know this little philosophy is not exclusive to this dude. so i ask the single men of the world, regardless of religious affiliation, to please open your eyes and look around you. i can with absolute certainty promise you that you are surrounded by amazing women who have all the qualities (and probably more that you can ever imagine) you want or desire in a companion. stop thinking that perfection exists, because honestly, there is a very good chance that you are not perfect so expecting it in a wife is just plain ludicrous.
good luck to T's friend from DC in finding that special someone outside of NYC. i'm sure he's a great person who has a desire to do what's right and built a righteous family. i'll try to give him the benefit of the doubt as long as he promises to never again complain about having no one to date in the area he is living like it is a problem not of his own choosing.
was i wrong to have the immediate motivation to punch this guy? please friends be brutally honest.
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No, you are right. I hear a lot of this kind of thing from my single sister, and I think it's a shame. So many fantastic single women (like you!), and too many single men looking for the wrong thing, or not seeing what is right in front of them. Ugh.
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