things not to say to a single woman in her 30s

for the good of single women in their 30s every where, please memorize these comments of what not to say to them or about them.

your time will come - unless you are married to father time and can for certain tell me that it is all about waiting for "my time" please keep this little morsel to yourself

it always happens when you least expect it or aren't looking for it - unless you are sitting at home reading pride & prejudice for the 80th time, life as a single 30 something is much too busy to constantly be worrying about your marital status; hence it is generally not expected

you must be the best aunt - truly i am an incredible aunt but saying this implies that being single automatically means that my pride and joy are the children of my siblings.  again, my marital status has nothing to do with whether i am a good aunt, it is instead based on my personality and loving family

are you sure you aren't being picky? - there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an understanding of what type of person will be compatible with in a relationship.  it isn't being picky when marrying someone would mean a change to a life that has been standard for many years and probably quite comfortable.

you're SO great.  why aren't you married? - hmmmm...just DO NOT ever say this to a single woman.  no explanation necessary.

have you tried online dating? - how someone dates is completely up to them.  if they feel comfortable focusing on an online connection then it is their choice.  online dating does not nor will it ever guarantee a relationship, no matter what eharmony or match promote.

single women are functioning, productive, charismatic, independent and fun loving people.  our marital status does not define our level of happiness.  i truly don't think that the fullness of joy comes once the ring is on the finger.  i just think it becomes a different kind of joy that you get to share with another person.  i know if i'm not able to find happiness with myself, there is NO way i'm going to find that joy with another person.

so please, no more "sweet" comments about my single status.  i'm doing just fine.  if this relationship is in my future then i will cross that bridge when i come to it.  my grandpa has already promised a great BBQ for my wedding reception.